Correct me if I'm wrong, but.....

I heard a rumor somewhere... that some time, long ago, in a far away land, bounding, supernatural steps towards equality were taken. Black and white finally clasped each others hands in unashamed joy at the response of this event. Slaves and owners celebrated their shared humanity at a banquet table together. Female and male stood eye to eye, sharing their unique perspectives on the wonders before them. As walls were broken down and social constraints destroyed, each walked into new perspectives, new ideas, new ways of thinking that opened up their mind, made their God greater, and fulfilled their life more than they thought possible.

When He died, all of God died with Him, and with that the former ways of humanity/deity interaction. When He rose, everything about humanity shifted, finding it's life and breath within the deity rather than under the deity. Walking into this new life together, walking into the life that only finds its definition in the Christ, allowed the chains of class, gender, color, and appearance to fall off. A fiery display of the vast uniqueness of God's creativity moving together, each different from the next, but completely unified.

In light of this, I do not understand your way of thinking. If God is all we seek, if He is all we strive for in every interaction, I do not understand how we can remain thinking in conditional categories of "us" and "them." If our actions are to please God, then there is no fear in our interactions. "For when two or three of you gather in my name, I am there."

In setting these fences so far away from your deepest-feared sin, I feel that you have missed out on the love (and therefore life) before you. Fifty percent of the world's perspective, fifty percent of the Church has just been cut of from a change of being a part of the body with you, from entering into life together. For how do you enter into life together, how do you enter into a movement with another person, unless you know who that person is? And how do you know who that person is unless you speak with them, know them, interact with them?

Not all intimacy is sexual. In fact, I think that intimacy that supersedes sexuality is the purest form of love.

I could be wrong. I could also misunderstand what you are saying. But this is what I am hearing, and it breaks my heart, for it keeps real, intentional community from becoming a part of life.